Two weeks ago a woman by the name of Samantha Brick openly admitted to the fact that she thought herself to be attractive. Which part of that sentence is wrong?
None of it. But the outrage caused by her ‘admittal’ suggests that something is. Not with Samantha Brick, however, but with a society that criticises
women individuals both for having too much self esteem, as well as for having not enough.
In 2011 alone more than 37,500 cosmetic surgery procedures took place. Cosmetic surgery as defined as “surgery performed to improve the appearance, rather than for medical reasons”. – Say what you will but that is a shockingly big number.
What is the (general) motivation behind this high number of cosmetic surgeries? Low self esteem, dissatisfaction with how we look and pressure to look like what we think we should look like. In the face of that — what is wrong with being confident?
And in a world where 50% of teenage girls think they are “too fat”, is there really something wrong with preaching the opposite of self doubt?
There are a wealth of self help books aimed at improving confidence. Why? Because it has been proven that self confidence aids people both in their health, their private and their public lives.
You know those girls who pinch at their thighs and cry to you about how fat/thin/ugly/stupid/short/tall they are? Yup. Very annoying. You know those ones who sit in the corner and refuse to speak up in the workplace? Yup. Unlikely to get hired and/or promoted. Same goes for men, of course. In the face of that — what the hell is wrong with being confident?!
Whether or not it should be the case is irrelevant. The fact remains that when someone is comfortable with how they look, it shows in their self esteem, in their levels of self respect, in the way they expect to be treated and in return in the way they treat other people.
Regardless of whether we want to admit it or not, the way we look plays a big role in how we feel about ourselves and in turn how we communicate with all that is outside of ourselves. It also affects how others look at you. After all, if you don’t believe in yourself – why the hell should anyone else?
And in a world which is so often dissatisfied, so fickle and so often seeking more, more, more in everything they have – is there really something so wrong with someone being satisfied? Content? Happy, even – in themselves?
Let’s put it this way… to all those who criticised Samantha for saying she was beautiful (it doesn’t matter whether or not, in fact, she actually is thought to be by the vast majority of people) do you wish you could be satisfied in yourself? When your daughter/son/brother/friend/sister come crying to you wishing they could be better/stronger/fatter/thinner… do you wish they could feel happy within themselves?
And when you find the answer to be yes, ask yourself — what the hell is wrong with being confident?